So What is That You Really Want

It truly amazes me when a man tells everyone he knows what kind of woman he wants and forgets that with this request, he himself doesn't want to change his ways. This also goes for women too, we want this man that can be every thing to us, but we want all of our girls friends to know all of our business so in case something goes wrong, they can help with being the judge and jury in our, yes, our relationships.Then we wonder why we have so many problems. Look, a man is a man and a woman is a woman. We want the other to do as they are supposed to do with the extra expectations. You can look around and see that many women think the best way to  get a man is with what they are working with on the outside. I'm not saying it's anything wrong with having a great figure, a beautiful face, but if that's all you're working with, then I want to tell you now, he's only interested in one. And that's probably because you allowed him to talk to you any kind of way. You may have thought it was flattery at first, but honestly, what's really going on? Ladies we always think we have an answer for every reason why a man do what he does. We don't, we are creatures who barely know what we want, let alone have the time to sit around and analyze what a man is and what he does. Finding out who we are is enough homework in itself. But to take an exam that we can and will fail is something I have to pass on. After I receive my Associates degree in Business Management, I will go for my Bachelors degree in psychology. Well I had a boyfriend who would never talk about anything, and I know that this was one of the problems to the mess that was going on in our relationship. I can remember him tell me, stop trying to get in my head just because you want to be a psychologist. I went on to tell him that I need a psychologist just to help me get in your head. Do I want to know everything my man is thinking? No, but it helps when he cooperates with decision making. Ladies let's stop trying to figure out why men do and act the way they do. Just pray that you really know what you want and that you aren't pretending to be something you're not.

Really Do Unto Others As.....

What goes around...Well we get the picture. It seems as if people seriously have this fetish about paying people back for the wrongs they did to them. All you ever hear is, I'm going to get her back or I'm going to pay him back for what he did to me. Would you think that perhaps this kind of vengence wouldn't happen if we started out treating people the way we deserve to be treated. Why lie to someone if they're not lying to you. Why cheat on them if they're not cheating on you? Why would you steal from someone if you know you wouldn't want them to come back and do the same thing to you. We are a ignorant generation. It's truly mind boggling that we will act as if our action are justifiable. Why wouldn't you want to do right by others, just because one person took advantage of you, said something to you that you didn't like, borrowed something that they never paid back or gave back? Either way, you still have a choice to do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. When will this happen? Is it when the first fifty people in the row do good things unto you, or will it happen once you have been put into a humbling position by God? When? You first and maybe I'll follow behind you? This is not a competition that we are fighting for, it's something that should come natural because we ought to want to. Always remember, don't put your guards up to people who never did anything to you because the way someone else treated you......

Caught off Guard

Yeah, I won't lie, you caught me off guard. When you made the comment concerning a particular situation, I began to panic. It was real what you said, but I didn't know how to answer. I couldn't just tell you what was really going on in my heart, instead we went on a roller coaster, which caused us both to become emotional. I'm telling you, if you would allow me to show you the real me, I will not let you down. I just need you to understand that I'm not ready for surprises that will catch me off guard. I haven't been this happy in so many years that I almost forgot how to live. I'm not sure what God has planned for either of us, but I know that we can make a great team in anything that we do. It's too much of you in me and too much of me in you. I don't know if you're just as afraid as I am, but as long as we are honest with one another, we will not go wrong. I have to go slow because I'm still tender in a lot of areas. Trust God, not yourself, because we can fail and God can't and won't. Be Blessed and :)